TO THE SINGLES & MARRIED

Relationships and marriage don’t
just slide into the disappointment
zone in an instant. Most of the time,
the symptoms show earlier but we
often ignore because we are in
“love!”
The husband that will end up
assaulting you physically would have
shown some signs, but you probably
didn’t pay attention. He must have
been "donating" a few slaps here
and there that you have been gladly
coping with! He must have been
expressing uncontrollable anger that
you thought will soon stop.
The wife that will nag you all day
and all night has probably shown
you the signs but you just
concluded it's because she is
sanguine! The wife that will not
support your vision and aspiration in
life would have shown her apathy,
but you were so much in love with
the hot legs!
Most of the times, the Holy Spirit
will attempt to lead us and tell us
when something is wrong with a
relationship. But when we assume
the attitude of “I want to do my own
thing,” then there is nothing God
can do.
God will never force anything on you
or override your will. He allows you
to make your decisions because He
is a just God. If God can override
our will, then everybody should be
born again and forced to accept
Jesus Christ into their lives.
However, God will not do that! But
He will lead, direct and guide you
always if you ask Him and you listen
to Him.
Here is one area where symptoms
usually show up, but we ignore
them - Spiritual life

Singles:

If his spiritual life is shallow and
it’s nothing to write home about,
you have to be extremely careful.
Everything in life and marriage is
predicated on this all-important
aspect, spiritual life! If she is not
interested in the things of God,
watch it!
If he or she does not value God’s
word as expressed in regular reading
and study of God’s word, something
is defective somewhere.
If he or she does not attend church
regularly, a really bad sign there!
Before you fall in love helplessly,
watch it. Don’t fall in love and fall
out of your senses at the same time.
Falling in love doesn’t mean that the
brain should stop functioning
neither does it mean you should
stop hearing God.
You say he doesn’t really drink
except for when he is troubled and
it is only small stout! He doesn’t
smoke hemp, its just once he took
cigarette when he was upset! And
you still “lovingly” hang on in that
kind of relationship? Wishing that
he will change or you will change
him? It doesn’t work that way.
People don’t just change until they
decide to change! And there is no
need asking God if it is His will in
such an unholy alliance!
You cannot say the reason you don’t
have time for God is because you
are busy. You are still single and
you are saying you are busy? You
don’t know the definition of “busy”
yet! Wait till you are married! Wait
till the kids start coming. And even
then, your being busy should not be
an excuse for not serving God.
You are in courtship, but it is only
you and him that knows. Nobody
else! Something is not quite right
with that. You are in courtship and
he or she hardly calls, sometimes for
weeks. Well, you should already
know what you are in for if you head
into marriage like that. I"ve always
said this: Marriage changes nobody!

Married Couples:

You are married and now, but it’s
been long since one of you or both
of you have been to church or read
your Bible or pray together. Now,
everything is wrong with that! That
kind of marriage needs urgent help
and attention. You cannot run your
marriage and home by your wisdom
alone! You will need God and the
earlier you realize that, the better.
Before you got married, you could
pray like a house on fire, but now
you spiritual life is a cool as
cucumber! And then you have this
beautiful excuse that it is like that
because of marital responsibilities?
My dear, marital responsibilities as
a wife or husband ought not take
you away from God but closer. You
see the scripture says one will chase
a thousand, but two will chase ten
thousand. So your strength ought to
be multiplied and not diminished in
the real sense of it! Their wisdom
ought to be amplified. But when
they unwittingly decide to leave God
out of their home, they have just
taken their foolishness to the next
level and the rewards of foolishness
awaits such a couple.
You cannot relegate God to the
background in your home and think
that your business acumen will bail
you out. Your marriage needs
attention if it is such a state. You
cannot spend time and money in
night clubs and taking care of your
fleshly desires while you say “what
do they need money for in church.”
You need to put God and His word
first place in your life, because days
of trial will show up and your
wisdom will fail you. At such times,
without God, you will be burnt.
Now is the time as a couple to
deliberately get involved in spiritual
matters and pay a whole lot of
attention on your spiritual life. Seek
to grow and seek to know God
better! It makes all the difference!